The executor will not show us bank statements or receipts. Is that allowed?

Save the key records, including deeds, account statements, beneficiary forms, court filings, and communications before the disagreement becomes harder to reconstruct. A personal representative's fiduciary duties generally include safeguard estate assets, keep adequate records, avoid self dealing, and provide information or accountings when required by law or court procedure. In the estate planning context, beneficiaries who cannot obtain reasonable information may be able to request a formal accounting or ask the probate court to review transactions. Estate and property questions can turn on state probate, trust, and family law, so have counsel in the relevant state review the controlling documents and present court or title status before anyone takes a permanent step.